Anger and abuse often go together. There are many reasons for this and first of all we need to understand a little about anger and where it comes from. Anger in adults often begins when we face injustice. Outrage often follows and this can lead us to take appropriate action. Outrage is a positive thing when it helps us take steps to stop violence and other injustices. Outrage involves integrity and caring plus a sense of responsibility. This type of anger does not lead to abuse so in this instance anger and abuse do not go together. When anger comes from a sense of being wronged, abandoned, rejected or controlled it can easily and often does lead to abuse. In these situations we fear being humiliated, disrespected or embarrassed. These are the times when anger may lead to abuse. At times like these we want to fight back, attack or blame others. We are often not willing to take responsibility for our own actions and want someone else to pay for the way we feel. Anger and abuse create unhealthy and unsafe relationships. Anger and abuse do not just affect a few people. When anger and abuse are used together entire families are affected. Children especially are vulnerable to anger and abuse. The consequences for anger and abuse are many and none of them are good. If you are in a situation where anger and abuse have become a pattern you need to seek help. There are groups for anger management and there are also groups for people who are living with people who have anger control or abuse issues. Anger and abuse can become deadly problems if they are not addressed and taken care of. Do not put yourself or others at risk. Source: www.innerbonding.com |
